The boys of today will be the fathers of tomorrow

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The boys of today will be the fathers of tomorrow

Have a different perspective this Father’s Day, think about the little boys in your life, fathers in the making

Father’s Day is a time to celebrate dads. But have you ever thought about the dads-to-be? This year, celebrate both the fathers that are and the ones that will be. The little boy in your house now, he will be someone’s father in the future. YOU have the power to shape him NOW.

What do you want the fathers of tomorrow to be like?

  • If you want him to be RESPECTFUL TOWARDS WOMEN…

demand of him that he treat the little girl in his class right. Don’t make excuses because he is little and he didn’t mean it.

 

  • If you want him to be ACCOUNTABLE…

hold him responsible for being a high-quality person today. Children engage with responsibilities and the more you gradually expect of him the more he will mature into a trustworthy person. Does he have a little job in the house? Do you hold him accountable?

 

  • If you want him to be MENTALLY STRONG…

cherish and value him for who he is, not what society and social media think he should be. Show him that his best is always good enough for you and help him grow into a stable teenager and adult that can handle social pressure and turn his back on macho stereotypes that are never true.

 

  • If you want him to be RESILIENT…

teach him how to handle failure. Nobody gets everything perfect, not even close. We know that but we still expect them to always be the best, the brightest, good at everything. Your little boy will make mistakes. Has he broken the lamp in the living room? Turn it into a learning moment, reassure him we have all done it once, make him learn from it: he has to clean it up safely and maybe even save to help replace it?

 

  • If you want him to be HEALTHY…

set the example. If you exercise and eat clean, he will want to emulate you. If you take the time to talk to him about it, educate him on its importance, when the time comes that he will be out eating with friends, he will be making a healthy food choice because he will know and be used to it.

 

  • If you want him to have EMPATHY…

involve him in volunteering activities. Let him experience selflessly giving instead of taking. Demand that he is considerate of others and teach him the importance of listening. Is he spending any regular time helping out others?

 

  • If you want him to GROW…

…teach him the importance of taking on challenges, asking for help, and admitting his shortcomings. This is really hard, for all of us. But think back; isn’t the moment when you experienced the most growth the one where you weren’t sure you could do it? You might have had to lean on others, to receive help, to be given a push. You had to come to terms with the fact that you would have failed alone. But you came out on the other side stronger than before. So will he.

 

It is the little things you teach him today, helping out around the house, doing the dishes instead of leaving it to mum, ironing his clothes for school, cooking a meal for everyone in the family, not talking back, helping out nana, cutting the elderly neighbour’s grass, not bailing on sport when it gets too hard… these little things are teaching them those big values. And if they learn the right values as kids they will have them as parents.

Raise the little boy in your house to be a father you would be proud of.

A special thought goes out to all of our readers who do not have a father in their life anymore. We hope you have someone else who you can think of as a father in your life and, if not, plenty of people close to you that love you deeply. Lots of hugs and love to you from all of us at Beautiful Minds.